Amore Magazine had a good Dear Denise relationship question regarding a woman who was concerned by the fact that her current beau was going through a divorce and it had not been finalized.
This is a good topic because it's a situation that many people find themselves in at one point or another. It is also a potentially tricky, and possibly explosive, situation that can put the breaks quickly on a budding romance. Before deciding to go forth with your desired, you should ask yourself the following questions.
1. Is the person ending the relationship because of me or were they thinking about it before? If you are the primary reason for the relationship disintegrating, you might want to consider potential hits to your personal reputation.
2. Are the problems worth the rewards? Breakups are usually messy, even without other people involved. Take off the rose-colored glasses & truly consider if this relationship is worth all of the potential issues.
3. Is the person truly ending the other relationship? You should only believe actions here, not words. He/she can say it is over but until he/she moves out, files for divorce, etc. there is absolutely no guarantee- or motivation. The other person may avoid ending things because they are "having the cake & ice cream too".
4. What do my friends & family think? Let's face it, when you're infatuated you aren't thinking clearly. Get some fresh insight on your situation from those who care about you.
5. How will this relationship impact your life? Take a good look at the other person's life and goals. Also keep in mind that the behavior regarding the discarded relationship could play out in yours as well.
Whenever navigating into "occupied waters", it is best to proceed with caution. The more people involved, the more potential problems. As cool as the other person may be, remember that there could be an equally cool person out there that isn't burdened with personal baggage.
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