Love, money, and attitude

Yesterday, David Wygant's blog had a good piece about how love is free and the key to success being your attitude, not what is in your bank account.

More than one person has bemoaned their current fiscal situation and let it essentially slam the breaks on their lovelife. I made a previous post on inexpensive dates. The key being, of course, that spending time together is the most important aspect. While I can't speak for men on this, I can say that women (well, the ones you want to be in a relationship with) are much more impressed by actions than by material possessions. If this isn't the case, and the woman is more concerned with how much money you can spend on her, this is a HUGE red flag to drop her and get far, far away.

Granted, women do like little gifts but these don't have to cost anything at all. A heartfelt letter, for instance, is worth much more than a dozen roses. A surprise visit, a massage after a hard day of work, or even just offering to do a chore that she normally has to do can add romance without costing you a dime.

As David so eloquently put, hearts can't be bought. They are won- and through methods that don't cost any money at all. Thoughtful actions are one of the cornerstones of building a good relationship.

Another good point mentioned in the article is changing one's own attitude. While I don't necessarily agree with the adage that you have to love yourself before you can love others, it is very true that your projected self-image can play an important role in attracting people to you. As mentioned in the previous "Singling Out Single Parents" blog, no one likes to be around someone who is negative all the time. However, in order for your attitude to change, you need to do something TO change it- otherwise you'll fall back into the same rut. Go different places, meet new people, try something fun and new (like Yumbunny) and overall, invest in yourself. If you take the time to invest in yourself, someone else will want to invest in you as well.

Money may "make the world go 'round" but love is the one arena where it turns up powerless. Turn your lemons into lemonade and use this time to show that it really is the thought that counts- whether applied to someone else or to yourself.