Starting a conversation

Say you've been matched up with someone again on Yumbunny. The person looks cool and interesting, but you want your message to stand out to them. Realizing that some people probably get a good number of messages (but not as many as you might think), you want your message to stand out amongst the rest.

First, start off with a common interest. Say one of the person's likes is Monty Python. You could start it off with a joke from there, like "No one ever expects the Spanish Inquisition!". Breaking the ice with a common "like" or interest is always a good way to go because it establishes a common ground.

Secondly, put a bit of humor into it. Even if you aren't the wittiest person on the planet, a little bit of non-offensive humor goes a long way. Making a person laugh, or at least smile, is a good way to get a positive first impression.

DON'T be cocky or arrogant. As I mentioned in a previous post, someone is actually encouraging men to be cocky/arrogant when contacting women. One of the things I've noticed when matching people is that a majority of people don't like mean people or arrogant/cocky people. So why start things off by being a jerk? Sure, the shock value may get some attention but it isn't the attention you want.

Finally, be yourself but be brief. Throw out a line, so to speak, and inject a little bit of your personality into it. Don't bother with a long message at this point- just enough to get the person interested. 5-6 lines is probably best to open the door.

Overall, remember that everyone is afraid of rejection. Contacting someone online on a website like Yumbunny is one of the easier ways to gauge a person's interest while mitigating potential for rejection. So go ahead and get yourself out there- you'll never know unless you try.