Half of the article is about honesty in the relationship and concerning things that the person in the relationship has not been honest regarding. The last line is thus:
Muster up the courage to tell them what you’ve lied about. Repeat to yourself, "No matter what happens, I will be okay."
While this is great advice for a relationship that may already be in trouble due to lies (either intentional or lies by omission), this translates to wonderful dating advice: Don't lie. Be honest about things up front so you don't have a mess later.
Many a romantic comedy is based on one of the party not following this, and crazy hijinks ensue as the other person invariably figures out the lies and the other person tries to cover them up with more lies or such. In the end, there's a big blow-up but things are forgiven for the sake of love, and there's a happy ending.
In this regard, Hollywood has failed miserably in showing what happens in real life: the couple splits up and the reputation of the liar may even be ruined.
"Grace" started dating "Dan" and lied about a few "little things" such as her actual age (she told him she was 3 years older then she was), why her last relationship ended (she stalked her boyfriend and he had to take a restraining order against her- she said their lives were too different), and about her parents (she told him they had passed away, in reality they lived a nearby town and he was a pastor of a large church but had not spoken in years). She figured these little white lies were easier to explain than the truth.
The problem was that as the relationship went on, Grace had to tell Dan more lies to keep the original lies she had told him going. Eventually, Dan got too suspicious as some inconsistencies popped up in her stories. A little searching revealed she was not being honest. Despite them loving each other, and living together at this point, Dan's trust in her was shattered. He broke things off with her, moved out, and Grace was left kicking herself and wishing she had just told the truth from the beginning.
Your date doesn't need to know the nitty-gritty of your life story on the first date. If questions are asked, however, don't lie. If you don't feel comfortable talking about it or it is a long story, simply say so. It will save you a lot more hassle in the long run and keep the trust in the relationship intact. Relationships are partnerships and trust is part of the foundation.
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