Focusing on what is

I stumbled upon an interesting article about two phrases to eliminate from your relationships over at The Spiritual Eclectic blog. The author talks about how people tend to write off problems in relationships by saying the relationship would be better or would be easier if some factor not within the relationship was different. For instance, saying that the relationship would be better if the person didn't work all the time.

While this may be the case, it is important to focus on what is. The sheer fact of the matter is that you cannot change anyone but yourself. To that end, what you can change is how you react to something. For instance, if you have a problem with your romantic interest working all the time, you need to realize that a new job may not even change this. People are what they are. Either you accept the present for what it is, or cut your losses and move forward.