The fine line between jerk & catch

Apparently there is a "dating expert" who is basically telling men to come across as jerks. This Men's Health relationship correspondent gave this piece of advice in his column:

"Hey, you probably couldn't handle me, but I thought I'd give you a chance anyway."

Almost every woman I know would raise an eyebrow to that and then hit the "delete" button. Maybe this works for women who like to play games with guys, but for the non-game-players this comes across as the guy being a jerk.

In the world of online dating, it really isn't as much of a "number's game" and "meat market" as people think. Women simply don't get 1000+ messages from "desperate men". Even the hottest women will only get about 20-30 tops and of those, will only respond to 4 or 5.

I agree you should add personality but acting like a conceited jerk will only get you somewhere with women who want to play with your head and emotions. Now, if you like being toyed with and yanked around, then by all means use this approach. However, if you're actually looking for something serious and a woman who is genuine, you can't use this approach.

Add personality and be yourself- be genuine and be interesting. Funny is a good approach, cocky is not. In a previous post, I listed some "dos" and "don'ts" in messaging someone from the first time online and these are much better tips than coming across as Mr.-Oh-How-I-Love-Myself-And-You-Should-Too.

Link to the good tips on meeting people online:
http://blog.yumbunny.com/2009/03/saying-hello.html

There's a fine line between being interesting and being a jerk. Some guys don't know where that line is and some women are more sensitive to it than others. To steer clear of this conundrum, be polite and be funny.