A few days ago, I hurt my back pretty badly. While I'm still not near 100%, I am partially back to work and was welcomed with quite a few messages from Yumbunny users. I apologized for taking so long to get back to them and explained my situation. However, I couldn't help but think of how many times excuses are used to explain away lack of contact and how many of those are genuine.
Several of my girlfriends have talked about guys who weren't into them and used excuses like illness when confronted as to why they didn't call, canceled a date, etc. Of these times, the excuses were rarely legitimate and were easily discovered to be false. If you're going to lie to someone about why you didn't call, why wouldn't you at least try to make some effort to make it not so obvious that it's a lie? Telling someone you have the flu and then partying down at the club where you met them is not exactly the best idea.
On the other hand, I know from personal experience that sometimes you want to contact someone but can't. Back injury can happen suddenly and you really can't do anything for a few days. Actual influenza or strep throat can also come on suddenly and leave you wanting to do nothing more than curl into your bed in the fetal position for a few days.
So, instead of writing the person off that they aren't into you, give them the benefit of the doubt and wait a week or so after initial contact. Who knows? They might actually be laid up in bed or so swamped with work that they can't get back to you right away.
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It's possible that their excuse could be genuine, but it can still be a bad sign. Should someone whose work is going to keep them so busy that they can't make contact with anyone for a week at a time really be planning a social life with dating? What's the future going to look like if that's a typical week in his/her life? I say that sort of thing should be established BEFORE the first date. At least that way, you know it's not a reaction to the date.
And particularly with the online world being as accessible as it is today, I don't think there's any excuse for not posting or messaging somewhere public that you're sick, so it's not nearly as suspicious.
That's a really good point. If they can't handle that, what are they going to be like in a relationship?
Though when I'm sick, I just want to lie in bed and sleep. I disconnect.
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