Investing in unhappiness

The Bitter Single Guy gave a particularly good response to a woman who complains that she is miserable with her ex-fiance and miserable without him.

To highlight one of the best quotes:

"The logic there is that if you’ve invested 7 years in your unhappiness you deserve to be unhappy…what…forever?"

I have had so many friends of mine try to use this logic when I tell them they should leave the person who is making them unhappy. "But I've invested (a house, X number of years, X number of money, etc) into this relationship!"

No amount of investment is worth constant unhappiness.

Period. End of story. Say this to yourself every single day. Simply put, life is too short. You have a limited amount of time alive on Earth. Whether you live for another 50 years or 50 days, your days are numbered. Why spend another second of it being miserable?

If he/she makes you miserable during the relationship, you will come back to he/she making you miserable again.

Some people simply aren't compatible- and that's okay. Sometimes you just can't make a relationship work with someone. Everyone gets into patterns with other people where they feel comfortable and are comfortable being unhappy. But WHY be unhappy? The "investment" isn't an investment if it's making you miserable- it's a liability.

If you keep finding yourself going back, you need to break off ties completely with the person. Move to another city. No more contacting, no more "getting back together." Your life is like a train... and simply put, you need to change the track.