Dating- Who makes the rules?

I recently came across this comment on Reddit (as well as several others talking about "selfish American women":

You fail because you don't play her game. Dating is a girls game and they make the rules. The only way to win is not play the game. Sooner or later they will figue it out. Most already have by the time they are 30.

(It was in response to this blog post on YouCantDate about why guys fail at dating.)

While some women do play games, pretty much any woman with whom you'd like to have a lasting relationship does not. Even women who read things like "The Rules" and other self-help books won't follow them if she's interested in the guy.

Here is an example of an average woman's thought processes from first meeting to marriage.

1st Impression - Gets Message From Guy on Yumbunny
"Oh how sweet- he said I was pretty. He's into computers and video games. I like video games. I wonder what he plays? Oh, he has nice eyes. His nose is a little big but who cares. Okay, I'll write him back. Let's see- nothing too forward, but definitely show interest. I hope he writes back soon."

She Gets a Response:
"Is it too early to write him back? How soon can I contact him without him thinking I'm too clingy or needy? What if he doesn't like me in person? What if he sees me and is like, 'ugh'?"

First Date:
"I hope my hair looks okay. He's got a great laugh. I hope he calls me."

2 hours after the date:
"Okay, don't call him. Don't call him. He'll be put-off, he'll think you're needy. Do something else, but keep the phone nearby just in case he calls..."

Relationship:
"I hope my parents like him! I hope I did/didn't have sex with him too early/too late. Is he as into me as I'm into him? When is he going to propose?"

Does anyone notice a trend here? Most women (and yes, even American women!) are more worried about being acceptable and desirable to their partners than they are in playing any sort of game. Life, and dating, is hard enough. Give us ladies the benefit of the doubt- it's just as hard for us as it is for you.